Helicopter Parents

You don’t want to be one! Helicopter parents are a relatively new phenomenon, mostly noticed in college settings (see full explanation of them here). Basically helicopter parents are known to hover around their kids, being overly involved in their lives.

I teach at a small college, but haven’t met any helicopter parents myself yet. However, I have heard stories from colleagues about parents calling them about their kids’ grades and demanding grade changes and other help for their kids.

Where are these parents coming from? Some suggest that technology such as the cell phone and e-mail has led parents to stay more connected to their kids. Because a kid can quickly call their mom or dad if they need advice on a decision, they make that call instead of making the decision on their own.

I just read an article by parenting expert Betsy Hart who suggests the growth in number of helicopter parents could be linked to parents who spend more time with their kids when they are young (see article). She is not suggesting that we don’t spend time with our kids, just that kids do need to learn to play independently. It really isn’t healthy for parents to hover over a child’s every move.

I have to agree with Betsy. I see many parents that don’t let their child make a move without them. These kids are usually the ones that have the most separation anxiety when they go to school. Also, I think parents that do something for themselves seem to be happier. Whether it is work, a hobby or even volunteer work, having a focus other than your child is good for you. Do you agree?